For some couples in the Miami area who have gone through it, a painful divorce is inevitable. That’s just how it goes. But for others considering a Miami divorce, it is possible to maintain peace and come to terms with the split together.
If you and your spouse are thinking of getting a divorce, the following tips will help you maintain your relationship while you go through the process together.
Consider Your Approach: Litigation vs. Mediation
Deciding how you want to approach your divorce can determine the amount of damage your relationship endures. Whether you’re seeking the advice of an attorney alone or you and your spouse are going through the process together, beginning with mediation can help set you up for an amicable divorce. So long as you and your spouse can work together, an attorney who is also a mediator can guide you through all the considerations you need to make without increasing tensions.
Think of Your Kids When Writing Your Parenting Plan
If you have children and you decide to get a Miami divorce, the best thing that you can do for them is to put their interests before your own. Talk to their other parent about creating a parenting plan that places their needs above all else. If you want, you can create the initial plan in the form of a letter to your children. Doing so can make any explanations for your decisions regarding their care easier on both of you.
Resist Taking on Emotional Work
One of the perks of divorce is that you no longer have to deal with your ex’s emotional baggage. While you can empathize with them, don’t fall into old habits. You are no longer responsible for their issues, whatever they may be. Not only can taking on this responsibility strain your relationship more than it already is, it can also lead to confusing thoughts and feelings.
Allow Your Relationship to Change
When you and your partner split, one of the toughest things to do is allow your relationship to change into something different. Aside from sharing parenting responsibilities if you are parents, you and your ex-partner are not responsible for each other. While that doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends (we’ve seen many couples become great friends after a divorce), your relationship might transform into something you didn’t anticipate. Allow it to change into what it will, and you’ll see that it’s for the best.
Don’t Rush Into Friendship
It’s great to want to be friends with your ex-spouse, but you don’t have to do it right away. In fact, you need to give yourself time to recon with the changes you’ve experienced. Even if you are ready from day one, you need to consider that your ex-partner might not be. It’s important to respect boundaries early.
You Deserve a Good Miami Divorce
If you and your spouse are considering divorce, let AM Law help you. We have lots of experience with mediation and Miami Divorce cases. Get in touch with us to learn what you need to do next.