Your Spouse Has Asked for a Divorce: 9 Critical Steps to Take

It might take you by surprise. You might feel like you can’t see straight or that you need to sit down. Your spouse has just asked you for a divorce, and you don’t quite know what to do.

Regardless of their reasons, there are some things that you should do if your spouse asks for a divorce, steps that are critical at the beginning of the process. Here’s what you should do.

Steps to Take

  1. Keep your emotions under control as much as possible. Making good decisions can be difficult when emotions run high. This step is especially critical if any children are involved.
  2. Find out when your spouse plans to file paperwork. Knowing if and when the legal process will begin will help you prepare.
  3. If you do not want a divorce but your spouse does, try to determine if counseling is an option. Sometimes talking through your issues can help determine if divorce really is the best option.
  4. Don’t agree to anything—child custody, the division of property, anything—before consulting with an attorney.
  5. Do not allow your spouse to intimidate or threaten you. Common tactics include denying you visiting time with children and threats of financial ruin.
  6. It’s important to remain calm in front of your children, even if your spouse is being uncivil. They are the most important thing.
  7. Begin doing research and seek referrals for a family law attorney.
  8. Take advantage of any support offered by family and friends as well as those in your community.
  9. Consider whether a collaborative divorce or divorce mediation is right for your situation. In addition to being less of a strain on your emotions, these alternatives also often prove to be less costly than going to court.

The Truth about Divorce

No two marriages are the same, and, therefore, no two divorces are the same. The truth is that it will be a difficult part of your life, but it doesn’t have to be unmanageable. Consulting with a qualified family law attorney that knows this area of law well, and who offers alternative routes to resolution, such as mediation, is the first step.

Choosing an Attorney

Your situation will require specialized attention in order to reach the outcome that is best for you and your family. It’s important that you consult with an experienced family law attorney to discuss your options for divorce as well as any divorce alternatives. Don’t hire just any attorney; it’s critical that your attorney is well versed in the intricacies of family law and have handled many divorce cases to prove their aptitude.

Are you facing divorce? The next steps that you take are critical. Talk to us today by calling 305-441-9530.